A sense of humour is very important in most type of relationships, including matters of the heart. My husband always makes me laugh, but not for his joke telling abilities though. For his seven years longer on this planet, it is obvious that he wasn’t paying attention for the whole time. And that is why God sent him to be…he needed to be with someone who could laugh at him. Remind him of the patterns of life he should be paying attention to.
The most recent event to amuse me and infuriate him is the recent arrival of boys in my daughter’s life. There is one neighbourhood boy who has been in our lives since he was three. He has attended birthday parties, church and has even been a kickboxing partner for my daughter. Great kid. But recently, he has been hit with the lovebug and has been at our door consistently everyday for two weeks. At first, it was all good. That was before my husband noticed that his daughter was sitting on the hammock WITH A BOY!
After my husband made the connection from harmless childhood playmate to member of the opposite sex, there was no appeasing him. The kids were not allowed to leave the yard, and certain not go the four houses to the playground. There was no one to supervised them. They were to be in direct father eye line for the rest of the visit. Even when the kids thought they were alone in their group of four, they were still under the watchful eye of the Papa. These are twelve year old kids, whose more daring thoughts are that they may actually hold hands….or steal a darting lipbrush. They are not at the “making-out-all-the-time” stage. That is in a couple of years. I don’t think my husband will survive.
I could tell it was embarrassing for my girl to deal with the attentions of a young gentleman, with her friend and his friend in tow. It was no easier with the popping up heads around her. (And yes, I peeked too. Mainly because my better half was in a state of panic when his daughter was sharing her hammock with A BOY!, so I looked. She saw me and waved right back! That would be totally busted, in the vernacular!) She handled herself well by totally ignoring her parents and perhaps telling her friends that her dad was off his medication, or that she was really adopted.
I am very worried that my husband will not handle the waiting challenges of teenagers well. Right now, he can forbid them not to leave the yard, but I have a feeling that it won’t last for long. He claims he is looking out for his girl because he knows how boys think. The typical rationalization. And we mothers remember what it was like to be a hormonal pre-adolescent. He is going to have to learn to lighten up.
What makes me laugh is that my daughter is my husband’s third girl child. The other two are posed near that hallmark of 3 decades. I have no idea how it, or they, made it, but they did. He still has not learned to relax, even a little.
But hey, as long as I laugh…..
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